How to Let Go in Simple and Easy Steps

''You can't possibly embrace that new relationship, that new companion, that new career, that new friendship or the new love you want, while you are still holding onto the baggage of the last one. Let go... and allow yourself to embrace what is waiting for you right at your feet''- Steve Marboli

Letting go of something you really wanted is not easy. At one point or another, we've all let go of something. Something that really matters whether it was a relationship, friendship or past.

While I was doing some research for this article, I came across a story of a lady. How she Let go of a 12-year-old relationship. Her boyfriend wasn't ready to go to the next phase of their relationship. He wasn't ready for marriage. But she wanted to get married. One day he actually said yes for moving in with her but he didn't show up and then she decided she has to let go.

It was difficult for her and it will surely be difficult for any of us. But when one door closes, another opens.

Later in the same year, she met her husband and now they are married for almost 25 years.
Letting go is difficult but it's life-changing.

We are not hoarders but we hold on to memories and stuff. So we can feel connected and play the victim to get support and attention.

We hold on to people and things just in case if they decided to come back or they decided to give you that opportunity again.

Accept the fact that they are gone. By accepting it  has happened that you were rejected with time this memory will become less painful and powerless.

First accepting what has happened earlier can be helpful to make it easier to forgive because reliving what has happened is not going to change anything.

There's no foolproof formula that this issue will not rise again. A part of you will always grieve, it's normal. The trick is not to focus so hard on it so, it can drain your energy.

Give yourself time, space and grieve as much as you want. Be your own emotionally nurturing mother. Only then you can learn THE ART OF LETTING GO.

What I do to Let go- I write a letter to that person about my feelings, my remorse and then I keep it somewhere safe or burn it.
Let me know in the comment what you do.


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